Some of my students have a problem, they don’t always tell the truth. They not only fib, tell whoppers and embellish, sometimes they straight up lie to my face. Telling the truth vs. telling a lie is a pretty black and white concept; it is a rule we are taught from the time we started talking. However, lying can fall into the gray area of social rules and it’s a difficult thing to explain to kids with social language impairments!
For my younger elementary students, I really like “Howard B. Wigglebottom and the Monkey on His Back” and Julia Cook’s book, “Lying Up a Storm” to start a discussion. It’s often so much easier to talk about difficult subjects in the frame of what someone else did, rather than addressing it directly with the student’s behaviors.
As a general rule, people should not lie. There are times however, when what is often called a “white lie” might be necessary to protect someone’s feelings. This discussion requires an understanding of perspective taking and being able to put yourself “in someone else’s shoes”. My older students will often try to excuse a rude or blunt comment with “I’m just being honest” or “But it’s the truth!”, regardless of how what they said made someone feel or think. To steal a phrase from them, not cool, not cool at all. As you can see, talking with our students about lying can be a slippery slope!
I really like these TPT activities to start a discussion on the concepts of thinking about others and how not being honest impacts them (and what they think about us when we lie):
What other resources do you use to work on honesty and lying? Share here!